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Women of God.... Where You At? Say Hello!!!

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I've noticed that there is a large number of men in this forum, but my question is where have all the women gone? Would love to give them a voice in this topic. If your a woman of God say hello

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Hello -- I said Hi on your introductory thread. And I've noticed that there's not many women around here, either.

 

I'm one who's on my computer more than 'baking cookies'. :RpS_smile:

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Although cookies sound good... Especially right now 😄

So -- what is going on in your life, at this point, that causes you to feel lonely?

 

I've got 4 grown kids, I'm can be a good listener.

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Its long and difficult... Well, not really.... Married 12 yrs, w/2 kids... Ages 7 & 11.... Everything is great, we talk and work together around the house, our Godly life is the same but when it comes to intimacy, its not there... I initiate the hugs the kisses saying i love you, calling her during the day to see how she is etc... We share house chores but i feel lonely... I know she loves me even though she only says it when i do but seriously, i've told her last night, i wont hold her anymore in bed and let her sleep even though sge dont go to sleep right away, and spends time on facebook pintrest etc

 

Theres my rant

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Its long and difficult... Well, not really.... Married 12 yrs, w/2 kids... Ages 7 & 11.... Everything is great, we talk and work together around the house, our Godly life is the same but when it comes to intimacy, its not there... I initiate the hugs the kisses saying i love you, calling her during the day to see how she is etc... We share house chores but i feel lonely... I know she loves me even though she only says it when i do but seriously, i've told her last night, i wont hold her anymore in bed and let her sleep even though sge dont go to sleep right away, and spends time on facebook pintrest etc

 

Theres my rant

Some comments / concerns -- from 46 yrs. of marriage -- as romantic as it Can be and no doubt started out as being -- it's Work. Hopefully Enjoyable 'work' but still work. From My perspective -- Why on earth would you tell her that -- that you won't hold her anymore in bed?! Okay -- you're irritated that she spends time on FB, pintrest, etc. I've heard of 'pintrest' but don't know what it is. Apparently some sort of communication with someone. Pictures / conversation?!

 

The intimacy is something between the two of you. Emotional closeness.

 

So -- what's causing You to feel lonely. The intimacy -- there's various kinds of intimacy -- emotional, physical, spiritual. And you want more physical intimacy from Her.

 

Apparently you're both believers -- go to church -- know other couples in your age bracket with kids. Do you socialize with them?

 

Lots of women are fine with their husbands approaching and don't really think about Their approaching.

 

You've said the two of you 'talk' , but apparently not about That. And That can be some of the trickiest conversation possible.

 

And marriages go through stages.

 

The title of your thread sounds really questionable. Sounds like you're looking for outside companionship. That can be unhealthy. Okay - dangerous to your marriage.

 

Getting to know the guys around the forum is great.

 

Are You on FB? Get to know the people she knows. Don't be jealous -- be friendly.

 

The next time she's on FB or where ever -- give her a hug.

 

Or / and -- plan special times for just the two of you -- or get together with another couple of your age, etc. to be able to share about experiences in life.

 

How was the intimacy Before the kids. That alone can change a woman's interest. Your bio info says you're between 35 - 44. Are you both about the same age?

 

Does your job keep you busy and maybe you're just now noticing things.

 

I Can be sort of a big sisterly type of person. But nothing else.

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I appreciate what your saying.. Were the same age, and the FB is joint account because neither of us have anything to find and really don't talk to anyone but family on it...

 

i always kiss her when i see her sitting with the comp. I dont want companionship from another women in that sense, advice yes.. Men in my opinion when it comes to this issue are idiots and say stupid things... Before kids it was more then what it was and i don't mean crazy but normal amount of time.... Anyway.... I didn't mean for this issue to be questionable, i want my wife and would never cheat turn to porn or anything... She's my world

 

Thanks for listening

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I appreciate what your saying.. Were the same age, and the FB is joint account because neither of us have anything to find and really don't talk to anyone but family on it...

 

i always kiss her when i see her sitting with the comp. I dont want companionship from another women in that sense, advice yes.. Men in my opinion when it comes to this issue are idiots and say stupid things... Before kids it was more then what it was and i don't mean crazy but normal amount of time.... Anyway.... I didn't mean for this issue to be questionable, i want my wife and would never cheat turn to porn or anything... She's my world

 

Thanks for listening

If you haven't been getting to know families from church -- couple on couple -- that would be a good idea.

 

Is your expectation of intimacy reasonable?

 

Sometimes a woman wants non-sexual touching. And some men have no understanding of what that is. Talk to your wife about these things.

 

Is your wife Also your best friend? Do you have guy friends from church and your wife have women friends?

 

Your kids have friends -- do you know their parents to socialize with?

 

I'm around to listen.

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Okay, well this is going to get interesting but very honest..... My wife is my best friend, and my expectations are not Hollywood sexuality its normal tender compassionate love shared between two souls who saved themselves in all ways (dating, kissing, etc).

 

As far as church... Were the youngest couple there, and being in a small city with not many places to worship and actually hear sound Biblical teaching not much to choose from... We had left the place we're at now for over a yr 1\2 but the Pastor caved to the pressures of the majority and refused to listen to discernment of a few including myself... After that we began praying about it we left and went back to the other place we had left earlier

 

I have no one i can call a friend because true Christian men around here my age are a rare breed....

 

Thanks for hearing me out😁

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Okay, well this is going to get interesting but very honest..... My wife is my best friend, and my expectations are not Hollywood sexuality its normal tender compassionate love shared between two souls who saved themselves in all ways (dating, kissing, etc).

 

As far as church... Were the youngest couple there, and being in a small city with not many places to worship and actually hear sound Biblical teaching not much to choose from... We had left the place we're at now for over a yr 1\2 but the Pastor caved to the pressures of the majority and refused to listen to discernment of a few including myself... After that we began praying about it we left and went back to the other place we had left earlier

 

I have no one i can call a friend because true Christian men around here my age are a rare breed....

 

Thanks for hearing me out😁

My husband and I have been to many churches over the years because we moved a lot. We were going to the small local church in our small community, but, after a few pastors coming and going over about 6 years, we decided to try a different area. Lots of people go to the bigger town that has lots more churches to choose from. There are several Baptist churches. And a bigger variety of people to get to know. We've found that getting to know new people Takes Time.

 

Maybe you could get to know your pastor and his wife? And it sounds like older men and wives would be more of a potential for you.

 

Life Does tend to be challenging and mostly there are no easy answers.

 

Keep on talking / sharing with each other. Guiding your kids as they grow into teens -- well -- everyone usually does survive the teen-age years. Listening and talking. Loving.

 

Satan is out to destroy the Christian home. Society is helping him.

 

Your sharing is appreciated.

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Its funny you mentioned bigger church... We did that and had our faith challenged and saw it grow... To the point of seeing compromise take hold and in my opinion, the devil move in... First Sr Pastor had his wife leave him (before we got there) that was 10 yrs ago.... 2nd the youth Pastor is anything but Pastoral, and his wife, a lover of earthly pleasures.... We stayed and challenged a change to the bylaws which was changing the issue of drinking to be acceptable and other weak language... I expressed my concern to the pastor and he let me know not all churches are for everyone, which is in contradiction to His Holy Word

 

ne way... God bless

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Its funny you mentioned bigger church... We did that and had our faith challenged and saw it grow... To the point of seeing compromise take hold and in my opinion, the devil move in... First Sr Pastor had his wife leave him (before we got there) that was 10 yrs ago.... 2nd the youth Pastor is anything but Pastoral, and his wife, a lover of earthly pleasures.... We stayed and challenged a change to the bylaws which was changing the issue of drinking to be acceptable and other weak language... I expressed my concern to the pastor and he let me know not all churches are for everyone, which is in contradiction to His Holy Word

 

ne way... God bless

You commented that the youth Pastor's wife was a lover of earthly pleasures -- maybe you could define 'earthly pleasures'.

 

Well -- he has a point-- not all churches Are for everyone. How is that contradicting God's Word? Believers Should all be in a church of like faith and practice, yes, but --okay -- your bio says you're evangelical. Defining evangelical can even be interesting.

 

It would depend on what's causing church growth -- that Should be a Good Thing.

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Well at least Sue answered you request.

 

Over the last two years we have seen a lot of people come and go. But perhaps William knows just how many women have joined.

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I don't care to much for titles like Baptist, Assembles, Reformed, Evangelical ect.. I would say all denominations have issues, some more then others... I attend a Baptist Church, but find great teachings from people of old... Wesley's, Edwards, Spurgeon, Tozer, Moody.... I also enjoy people within my lifetime (though i dont always agree) Lawson, McArthur, Washer, Baucham, Ravenhill, Sproul, Zacharies and others....

 

Anywho!

 

 

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I don't care to much for titles like Baptist, Assembles, Reformed, Evangelical ect.. I would say all denominations have issues, some more then others... I attend a Baptist Church, but find great teachings from people of old... Wesley's, Edwards, Spurgeon, Tozer, Moody.... I also enjoy people within my lifetime (though i dont always agree) Lawson, McArthur, Washer, Baucham, Ravenhill, Sproul, Zacharies and others....

 

Anywho!

 

If I may ask, what brought you to the Baptist church?

 

Yes, those are all great men of the faith.

 

The titles Do give a person an idea of what the church teaches and that is important.

 

Each denomination does haves it's particular teachings, yes.

 

My parents started out as Presbyterians but later changed to being Baptists -- because the Bible teaches baptism by immersion rather than sprinkling.

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Grew up in Canada under Pentecostalism (Assemblies in the USA) moved to Florida and we started out in AOG (Assemblies) before being led to non denomination after 10 yrs the Spirit of God warned that sin was in the camp and if restoration was to happen get right with God... They didn't and shortly after it was revealed the Pastor been having an affair... His own son caught him in bed.... The fellowship desloved quick.. 2200 people 2 service down to 25 people... While search for a new place to worship i studied at home for 6 months listening to many messages online my parents asked if i want to go to where they were attending and i did but within 6 months left... Moved back to Canada with my parents shortly after 9/11 and went to non denom... Did a 2 yr Bible College at the Church where I stepped on many toes, not because of arrogance but because of conviction... Many church leaders tell you their opinion as facts, but that's not the case.... Anywho, I've attended many places and now since marriage in the Baptiust church... No other reason i enjoy it and will go where God calls me😀

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Grew up in Canada under Pentecostalism (Assemblies in the USA) moved to Florida and we started out in AOG (Assemblies) before being led to non denomination after 10 yrs the Spirit of God warned that sin was in the camp and if restoration was to happen get right with God... They didn't and shortly after it was revealed the Pastor been having an affair... His own son caught him in bed.... The fellowship desloved quick.. 2200 people 2 service down to 25 people... While search for a new place to worship i studied at home for 6 months listening to many messages online my parents asked if i want to go to where they were attending and i did but within 6 months left... Moved back to Canada with my parents shortly after 9/11 and went to non denom... Did a 2 yr Bible College at the Church where I stepped on many toes, not because of arrogance but because of conviction... Many church leaders tell you their opinion as facts, but that's not the case.... Anywho, I've attended many places and now since marriage in the Baptiust church... No other reason i enjoy it and will go where God calls me😀

Thank you for sharing -- an interesting background. It's usually a good idea to go where God leads you.

 

That's what's interesting about a Forum -- international -- can get to know people from a variety of backgrounds.

 

There's another individual with Canadian background.

 

I'm born - raised here in U.S.

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Boy, this original post really went a few different places, but its all good😀

Well -- you Did ask about any Godly women being around and where are you.

 

So -- I've been here. In a big-sisterly way. If you want to discontinue -- simply don't respond back. Thread topics come and go as interest comes and goes. :)

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You can't discontinue fellowship with a brother/sister in Christ unless they fall intoi rebellion and refuse to repent.. LoL

 

Okay, glad i got that out of the way.... Thanks for responding 😁

 

I am enjoying this

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You can't discontinue fellowship with a brother/sister in Christ unless they fall intoi rebellion and refuse to repent.. LoL

 

Okay, glad i got that out of the way.... Thanks for responding 😁

 

I am enjoying this

Okay -- will continue for a while -- when I was growing up in S. S. - our lesson material would focus on all the Bible happenings. It wasn't until I was older and was reading my Bible through for the first time that I saw how all those happenings fit together in Bible / history. And then reading in the New Testament I could see where the various denominational teachings came from. I understand the why's/ wherefores of the Pentecostal / Assemblies teachings come from. And I can Also see where some of it is very questionable. I can see how emotionalism is stirred up by a pastor during his sermons through his voice / tone of voice, etc. compared to preaching of the Word stirring the people through the Holy Spirit. I think I said that backwards -- the Holy Spirit speaking to hearts through the teaching of His Word by the pastor. The pastor I grew up learning under -- there was one Sunday in particular -- I don't remember what the topic was -- but as he was preaching the Word -- such an atmosphere cam over the auditorium. Sort of a hushed awesomeness -- no one was getting emotional -- nothing like that -- but the Holy Spirit was definitely at work. It could be felt -- almost tangeable. And That is totally different than a pastor Purposely Trying to stir up the people. That was when an older man sitting off to the side of me and my kids started mumbling. At first I thought he'd fallen asleep during the service and was mumbling, but then I realized he was wide awake. No one was there to translate what he was saying. And then a young woman went running down to the front and was being very emotional and doing 'something'. All of that did not 'feel right' to me. But that was just one service, so I went back to a sunday night and Wednesday evening. Wasn't any different. I simply didn't feel right -- so I didn't go anymore.

 

After that I looked up various Baptist churches and found one with a buss ministry. My husband worked Pizza Hut and wasn't available. So I found a church with the buss -- it picked us up. The driver seemed surprised that I was going with my kids. But I wasn't going to have them there by themselves. I stayed with them during the S.S. opening and was there for church with them.

 

At one point, we went to a church with a large bus ministry. It was pretty much a free baby-sitting service. No one was really responsible for the kids during Church. They knew it and felt free to misbehave. We sat in the back couple of pews and some of the older kids sat right behind us. They were whispering and passing notes back and forth -- so I passed my own note back To them. They seemed really surprised that any one was paying attention to them. They were respectful of my note and were quiet.

 

The idea was that the bus ministry would be reaching the black and hispanic community through the kids. They were given candy on the bus and pretty much trashed the bus. Reached families --pretty much No. The parents saw the church as free baby-sitting. Getting the kids out of their hair for an hour or so the parents could be 'alone'.

 

Enough of My rantings.

 

Churches have gotten So far away from Godliness it's horrible. We're wanting to be more acceptable to the 'world' in order to Get to the world -- but it doesn't work that way. Worldliness drags Us Down. Lots of people feel that the Bible is out of date -- archaic and so disregard it's moral / ethical teaching. The result, though, is more and more of a Mess.

 

We are to be the light in the world -- in the midst of spiritual darkness. At times -- being a 'sole' light isn't fun or popular. But one light does have a tendency to attract other 'lights'. And sometimes 'we're' the lone light for a Long time.

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I'm sure many have had this similar experience. Thanks for sharing...

In your post # 10 -- sounds like you're back living in Canada -- is the AOG and Pentecostal the same thing? Have you seen any of what I shared, in churches you've gone to?

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I was for a short time.. In southern US now... Yes the Canadian Pentecostals or the PAOC are the same as AOG

 

There have been times people were doing things you said, other times i believe it was God... God is bigger then us and sometimes unexplained things are scary but when decernment and the Word of God you can see if its God or man

 

In one meeting i had a buckled knee going on 2-3 weeks... Went up for prayer and a lady in the church i knew laid her hand on my knee... We both felt it pop back into place

 

God is so good

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I was for a short time.. In southern US now... Yes the Canadian Pentecostals or the PAOC are the same as AOG

 

There have been times people were doing things you said, other times i believe it was God... God is bigger then us and sometimes unexplained things are scary but when decernment and the Word of God you can see if its God or man

 

In one meeting i had a buckled knee going on 2-3 weeks... Went up for prayer and a lady in the church i knew laid her hand on my knee... We both felt it pop back into place

 

God is so good

In southern U.S. -- so am I. South Texas. Where are you and your wife located. At least, generally speaking, if you don't feel comfortable sharing more specifically.

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