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The Harm of ‘Believing in Yourself’

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Several years ago, when I was a student pastor, I was sitting in an awards ceremony for one of our teenagers. The presenter stood up to begin calling names of the recipients, but before she began handing out the plaques she took the opportunity to sneak a quick speech in.

 

She began by telling the students how she appreciated their hard work, that God has given each of them gifts that could only come from Him and that they should always serve God and others with these gifts. She then went on to say, “Most importantly, always believe in yourself!”

 

“You just need to believe in yourself!” How many times have we been told this statement as a pep talk?

 

Culture tells us this is a great attribute to possess—the ability to take matters into your own hands, to be the determiner of your own destiny and the captain of your own ship. You can do anything that you set your mind to. Believe and achieve! And pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. There are whole sections of the bookstore devoted to helping you think like this, to have self-confidence above all else, and to rely on yourself and yourself alone.

 

This kind of advice resonates with our human nature because at the end of the day we all love taking matters into our own hands.

 

We’d rather trust in ourselves because it makes us feel “in control.” However, sadly, deep down in the true essence of who we are, in our soul and spirit, we know it’s a lie. In fact, the more you “believe in yourself,” the deeper the ditch that you find yourself in.

 

Thankfully, the Bible offers us hope and rescue from ourselves by giving us great reasons why you shouldn’t just believe in yourself:

 

 

“Believing in self” caused the fall of the human race:

 

 

The serpent tempts Adam and Eve with the very same thing that got him booted out of heaven, telling them in essence, “You can and will be like God. There is no reason to trust God any longer because you can be like God yourself.” This was the great temptation in the Garden of Eden. It was more than taking a bite of fruit. It was mankind wanting to be God, listening to the serpent over their Creator and “believing in themselves” more than trusting God’s direction.

 

 

“Believing in self” caused problems for the Israelites in the Old Testament:

 

 

One of the strongest accusations that God continually had toward the Israelites was they kept doing “whatever was right in their own eyes” instead of trusting in Him. The people didn’t need God because they believed in the same statement we believe in today: “to each his own.” The Israelites just did whatever they felt was right. They were “believing in themselves” and felt they had no need to believe in God for direction.

 

 

“Believing in self” is the opposite of what Jesus taught:

 

 

The fundamental statement that Jesus gave us about following Him was not for us to “believe in ourselves” but, rather the exact opposite“deny yourself.”This denial is more than letting go of some dream or desire. The call is to deny our whole self, all of our natural motives and impulses that conflict with the claims of Christ. In fact, He goes even further to say that we must take up our cross, which is an instrument of death.

 

So, are we supposed to believe in ourselves? No, actually we’re supposed to die to ourselves! Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).

 

Faith in its purest form is believing in God rather than believing in myself. When I attempt to “believe in myself” by being in control, it actually causes me to suffer from stress, worry and anxiety because I am trying to do a job that is way above my pay grade. Being in control is a God-sized job. Therefore, my only job is to trust God to do His job knowing that He is very, very good at it.

 

In reality, part of the great news of the Gospel is that one of my most dangerous enemies—me—would be put to death. Jesus died so the old me would die; He was buried so the old me would be buried and He now lives so a new me can live. And this new me must now be compelled daily to believe in Jesus.

 

Source: https://relevantmagazine.com/stateme...g-in-yourself/

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“Believing in self” is the opposite of what Jesus taught:

 

Dear William.

 

I must admit that when I started reading, my mindset was placed wrong. I thought, if one has such a close relationship with Jesus, so close that He is part of one, believing in self means believing in Him.

 

 

The fundamental statement that Jesus gave us about following Him was not for us to “believe in ourselves” but, rather the exact opposite“deny yourself.”This denial is more than letting go of some dream or desire. The call is to deny our whole self, all of our natural motives and impulses that conflict with the claims of Christ. In fact, He goes even further to say that we must take up our cross, which is an instrument of death.

 

So, are we supposed to believe in ourselves? No, actually we’re supposed to die to ourselves! Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).

 

This part got my attention and made me start rethinking. If I had such faith in Jesus, why do I always have this need to be in control of everything?

 

 

Faith in its purest form is believing in God rather than believing in myself. When I attempt to “believe in myself” by being in control, it actually causes me to suffer from stress, worry and anxiety because I am trying to do a job that is way above my pay grade.

 

Then I read this and started thinking, you're totally right. The moment we think we are/must be in control, anxiety and worry hits. We think we have power over things we actually don't.

 

 

Being in control is a God-sized job. Therefore, my only job is to trust God to do His job knowing that He is very, very good at it.

 

And here is where I understood. My job is to believe and love Him. I must trust Him completely before myself.

 

I'll start not believing in myself from now on. Thank you very much for posting this.

 

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Is it possible to choose to be led?

Or is yielding the only option?

If so then who does the choosing?

 

You were talking about confidence in God vs self.

If I see myself as being in Christ and Christ in me and He being the doer of all things then surely I can enter into that rest.

Thank you and God bless you William...

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For me, the phrase "believe in yourself" is about boosting self-esteem and self-confidence, which is actually very consistent with loving and serving the Lord. The opposite of believing in yourself is to be filled with self-doubt. In practice, we know that self-doubt and low self-esteem can manifest in some very negative issues, such as depression, suicide, bullying and domestic violence. I don't believe our Creator would want us to go through life doubting ourselves. We are all children of God, made in His image. If the Lord believes in us, who are we to not believe in ourselves?

 

Believing in yourself doesn't mean you don't need or want the Lord. It just means that you're in a better place to believe that you can make a positive difference in the world (through love, charity etc.), are more confident to share your gifts and talents with the world constructively, and that you're more likely to be able to help others that aren't confident in themselves.

 

For me, I believe in the Lord and his great works and deeds first and foremost, but that does not preclude me (or anyone else) from believing in myself. In the times of my life where I have lost my path and stopped believing in myself, it has taken me to some very deep struggles, where I am not able to help myself, let alone others.

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Several years ago, when I was a student pastor, I was sitting in an awards ceremony for one of our teenagers. The presenter stood up to begin calling names of the recipients, but before she began handing out the plaques she took the opportunity to sneak a quick speech in.

 

She began by telling the students how she appreciated their hard work, that God has given each of them gifts that could only come from Him and that they should always serve God and others with these gifts. She then went on to say, “Most importantly, always believe in yourself!”

 

“You just need to believe in yourself!” How many times have we been told this statement as a pep talk?

 

Culture tells us this is a great attribute to possess—the ability to take matters into your own hands, to be the determiner of your own destiny and the captain of your own ship. You can do anything that you set your mind to. Believe and achieve! And pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. There are whole sections of the bookstore devoted to helping you think like this, to have self-confidence above all else, and to rely on yourself and yourself alone.

 

This kind of advice resonates with our human nature because at the end of the day we all love taking matters into our own hands.

 

We’d rather trust in ourselves because it makes us feel “in control.” However, sadly, deep down in the true essence of who we are, in our soul and spirit, we know it’s a lie. In fact, the more you “believe in yourself,” the deeper the ditch that you find yourself in.

 

Thankfully, the Bible offers us hope and rescue from ourselves by giving us great reasons why you shouldn’t just believe in yourself:

 

 

“Believing in self” caused the fall of the human race:

 

 

The serpent tempts Adam and Eve with the very same thing that got him booted out of heaven, telling them in essence, “You can and will be like God. There is no reason to trust God any longer because you can be like God yourself.” This was the great temptation in the Garden of Eden. It was more than taking a bite of fruit. It was mankind wanting to be God, listening to the serpent over their Creator and “believing in themselves” more than trusting God’s direction.

 

 

“Believing in self” caused problems for the Israelites in the Old Testament:

 

 

One of the strongest accusations that God continually had toward the Israelites was they kept doing “whatever was right in their own eyes” instead of trusting in Him. The people didn’t need God because they believed in the same statement we believe in today: “to each his own.” The Israelites just did whatever they felt was right. They were “believing in themselves” and felt they had no need to believe in God for direction.

 

 

“Believing in self” is the opposite of what Jesus taught:

 

 

The fundamental statement that Jesus gave us about following Him was not for us to “believe in ourselves” but, rather the exact opposite“deny yourself.”This denial is more than letting go of some dream or desire. The call is to deny our whole self, all of our natural motives and impulses that conflict with the claims of Christ. In fact, He goes even further to say that we must take up our cross, which is an instrument of death.

 

So, are we supposed to believe in ourselves? No, actually we’re supposed to die to ourselves! Then Jesus told his disciples, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me” (Matthew 16:24).

 

Faith in its purest form is believing in God rather than believing in myself. When I attempt to “believe in myself” by being in control, it actually causes me to suffer from stress, worry and anxiety because I am trying to do a job that is way above my pay grade. Being in control is a God-sized job. Therefore, my only job is to trust God to do His job knowing that He is very, very good at it.

 

In reality, part of the great news of the Gospel is that one of my most dangerous enemies—me—would be put to death. Jesus died so the old me would die; He was buried so the old me would be buried and He now lives so a new me can live. And this new me must now be compelled daily to believe in Jesus.

 

Source: https://relevantmagazine.com/stateme...g-in-yourself/

 

These things have been troubling me for a while now yet I could'nt understand. Man is an amazing creation and our talents leave us in wonder. Science, technology. genius. I was watching Americas got Talent last night. Some are just astounding. kids singing like adult professional. Then it hit me that not one gave God any credit. They just soaked up the cheering of the crowds and the praises of the judges. Why did Jesus say I pray not for the world. It's because the world does not acknowledge their creator who alone gave us talents. The super stars of the world have their names written on tome stones

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These things have been troubling me for a while now yet I could'nt understand. Man is an amazing creation and our talents leave us in wonder. Science, technology. genius. I was watching Americas got Talent last night. Some are just astounding. kids singing like adult professional. Then it hit me that not one gave God any credit. They just soaked up the cheering of the crowds and the praises of the judges. Why did Jesus say I pray not for the world. It's because the world does not acknowledge their creator who alone gave us talents. The super stars of the world have their names written on tome stones

 

 

"Being in control is a God sized job." - Quote of the day.

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