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    I'm a new believer and have a lot of questions

    I have really for the first time ever felt God's presence in my life and for the first time ever I can honestly say I believe in God..

    I have one question I'm really struggling with right now.

    I sin, and certain aspects of sinning that I feel are not harmful or disruptive are scaring me. I genuinely believe I am a good person and always try to do the right thing but sins such as pornography or getting drunk, etc.

    Do I have to completely cut those sins out of my life, or will God punish me. It makes me scared because I don't want God to punish me for sinning. I know no one is perfect so how is there a balance in not living a life involving sin but still being happy, loving God?

    #2
    Originally posted by sink
    I have really for the first time ever felt God's presence in my life and for the first time ever I can honestly say I believe in God..

    I have one question I'm really struggling with right now.

    I sin, and certain aspects of sinning that I feel are not harmful or disruptive are scaring me. I genuinely believe I am a good person and always try to do the right thing but sins such as pornography or getting drunk, etc.

    Do I have to completely cut those sins out of my life, or will God punish me. It makes me scared because I don't want God to punish me for sinning. I know no one is perfect so how is there a balance in not living a life involving sin but still being happy, loving God?
    Living a life involving sin, but still being prosperous and helped by God *** any advice is appreciated, thanks!
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      #3
      Hi Sink, our salvation is actually from "sin", and in particular, from our sinful selves. God's intention from the beginning was that we be should be like Him as His sons/daughters, which is why He made us in His image (an image that He is, in fact, laboring to return us to :)). The fact that we are saved from His wrath, and thereby saved from Hell, is certainly an added benefit, but that's not the reason or purpose that God has in saving us.

      Ephesians 1
      4 He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love
      5 He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will
      6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.


      God changed you when He made you into a Christian .. e.g. Ezekiel 36:26; John 3:3; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 2:10, and the HS now indwells and empowers you .. e.g. Acts 1:8; 1 Corinthians 2:12-16, which is why the continuation of some of your old, sinful ways is bothering you, and even scaring you (even though you say that you don't believe those particular sins to be "harmful or disruptive"). God has a FAR higher standard, intention, and expectation for those of us who are His (as you just read above), so you need to repent/turn away from those old sins which remain*, once and for all.

      *You know that this sinful behavior is wrong, behavior that you're trying to justify because you've allowed your old self/old nature to rule your life instead of the Holy Spirit. So, when you are tempted by pornography and/or the desire to get drunk, you need to resist the urge to do so by immediately taking those sinful thoughts captive to Christ (and let Him deal with them for you .. 2 Corinthians 10:5 .. again and again, if necessary)! You need to "delight" yourself in Him instead .. Psalm 37:4, and begin to "treasure" His word in your heart to help you keep your way pure before Him .. Psalm 119:9-11.

      Sadly, we will continue to sin at times for the rest of our lives (until we finally shed our old nature in death), but continuing in sin as a "lifestyle" choice is something that we Christians simply must not do. Rather, our 24/7 concern should always be about how we can please and obey God, and in how we can bring Him glory, honor and praise in all that we do, say and think .. e.g Matthew 5:16.

      In Christ,
      David
      p.s. - if you've ever wondered what the will of God is, well, here you go:

      1 Thessalonians 4
      3 This is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;
      4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,
      5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God.
      Last edited by David Lee; 07-05-2017, 01:07 PM.
      Simul Justus et Peccator ~Martin Luther

      "We are justified by faith alone, but the faith that justifies is never alone" ~John Calvin

      "Instead of a river, God often gives us a brook, which may be running today and dried up tomorrow. Why? To teach us not to rest in our blessings, but in the Blesser Himself." ~A. W. Pink

      "The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances" ~Elisabeth Elliot

      "The law is for the self-righteous to humble their pride; the Gospel is for the lost to remove their despair. ~C. H. Spurgeon
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        #4
        Originally posted by David Lee
        Hi Sink, our salvation is actually from "sin", and in particular, from our sinful selves. God's intention from the beginning was that we be should be like Him as His sons/daughters, which is why He made us in His image (an image that He is, in fact, laboring to return us to :)). The fact that we are saved from His wrath, and thereby saved from Hell, is certainly an added benefit, but that's not the reason or purpose that God has in saving us.

        Ephesians 1
        4 He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love
        5 He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will
        6 to the praise of the glory of His grace, which He freely bestowed on us in the Beloved.

        God changed you when He made you into a Christian .. e.g. Ezekiel 36:26; John 3:3; 2 Corinthians 5:17; Ephesians 2:10, and the HS now indwells and empowers you .. e.g. Acts 1:8; 1 Corinthians 2:12-16, which is why the continuation of some of your old, sinful ways is bothering you, and even scaring you (even though you say that you don't believe those particular sins to be "harmful or disruptive"). God has a FAR higher standard, intention, and expectation for those of us who are His (as you just read above), so you need to repent/turn away from those old sins which remain*, once and for all.

        *You know that this sinful behavior is wrong, behavior that you're trying to justify because you've allowed your old self/old nature to rule your life instead of the Holy Spirit. So, when you are tempted by pornography and/or the desire to get drunk, you need to resist the urge to do so by immediately taking those sinful thoughts captive to Christ (and let Him deal with them for you .. 2 Corinthians 10:5) .. again and again, if necessary! You need to "delight" yourself in Him instead .. Psalm 37:4, and begin to "treasure" His word in your heart (to help you keep your way pure before Him .. Psalm 119:9-11).

        Sadly, we will continue to sin at times for the rest of our lives (until we finally shed our old nature in death), but continuing in sin as a "lifestyle" choice is something that we Christians simply must not do. Rather, our 24/7 concern should always be about how we can please and obey God, and in how we can bring Him glory, honor and praise in all that we do, say and think .. e.g Matthew 5:16.

        In Christ,
        David
        p.s. - if you've ever wondered what the will of God is, well, here you go:

        1 Thessalonians 4
        3 This is the will of God, your sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual immorality;
        4 that each of you know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,
        5 not in lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God.
        Thank you! A thing I don't get is that sins are a choice. So why doesn't every Christian at least try to live a sinless life? Because I know plenty of very religious people that God is a big part of their life, that still choose to sin by cussing, getting drunk, pornography, etc.... these people have believed their whole life.
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          #5
          Originally posted by sink View Post
          Because I know plenty of very religious people that God is a big part of their life, that still choose to sin by cussing, getting drunk, pornography, etc.... these people have believed their whole life.
          There is a difference between being religious and being a Christian. When someone repents of his sin and places his faith in Christ he is born again and receives a new nature that cannot sin. He also receives the Holy Spirit to help him live as he should. He still has his old nature and can be tempted to fall into sin, but he can't remain in it as he could before salvation. Anyone who attempts to follow a religious system, even Christianity, without really being born again lacks the power of the Holy Spirit and can't always live up to what he knows is right. There was a time in my life when I believed Christianity was true and tried to follow it but I often failed because I had not been born again.
          Clyde Herrin's Blog
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            #6
            Originally posted by theophilus
            There is a difference between being religious and being a Christian. When someone repents of his sin and places his faith in Christ he is born again and receives a new nature that cannot sin. He also receives the Holy Spirit to help him live as he should. He still has his old nature and can be tempted to fall into sin, but he can't remain in it as he could before salvation. Anyone who attempts to follow a religious system, even Christianity, without really being born again lacks the power of the Holy Spirit and can't always live up to what he knows is right. There was a time in my life when I believed Christianity was true and tried to follow it but I often failed because I had not been born again.

            So is this "being born again" when you are baptized?
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              #7
              Originally posted by sink View Post


              So is this "being born again" when you are baptized?
              NO! That is what I used to believe and is why I was once a member of a church and a professing Christian when in fact I wasn't saved. Here is what the Bible says:

              The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world.He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him. But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God. (John 1:9-13)

              We are born again when we receive Christ, that is, when we turn from our sins and place our faith in him for salvation. When we do this we are baptized into the body of Christ by the Holy Spirit.

              For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit. (1 Corinthians 12:13)

              We should be baptized in water after we have done this but water baptism is a sign that we have been born again, not the means by which we are born again.
              Clyde Herrin's Blog
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                #8
                Originally posted by theophilus

                NO! That is what I used to believe and is why I was once a member of a church and a professing Christian when in fact I wasn't saved. Here is what the Bible says:

                The true light, which gives light to everyone, was coming into the world.He was in the world, and the world was made through him, yet the world did not know him. He came to his own, and his own people did not receive him. But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God, who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God. (John 1:9-13)

                We are born again when we receive Christ, that is, when we turn from our sins and place our faith in him for salvation. When we do this we are baptized into the body of Christ by the Holy Spirit.

                For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit. (1 Corinthians 12:13)

                We should be baptized in water after we have done this but water baptism is a sign that we have been born again, not the means by which we are born again.
                So do I have to be baptized to be born again? I'm not really a member of a church or anything
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                  #9
                  Originally posted by sink View Post

                  So do I have to be baptized to be born again? I'm not really a member of a church or anything
                  No. You should be baptized in water only after you have been born again. Here are two links to sites that will explain salvation a lot better than I can. I hope you will think about what they say.

                  Answers for Seekers | Christian Apologetics & Research Ministry

                  Back to the Bible - Who is Jesus?
                  Clyde Herrin's Blog
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                    #10
                    Originally posted by sink View Post
                    I genuinely believe I am a good person and always try to do the right thing...
                    Hi Sink, I wanted to address this statement of yours, but I never got around to it earlier (so I will do so now). I will probably have at least a couple of questions for you about this, but let's with this one first: Why do you believe that being a "good person" and "always trying to do the right thing" is important in the process of becoming a "new believer"?

                    Thanks!

                    Yours and His,
                    David

                    Simul Justus et Peccator ~Martin Luther

                    "We are justified by faith alone, but the faith that justifies is never alone" ~John Calvin

                    "Instead of a river, God often gives us a brook, which may be running today and dried up tomorrow. Why? To teach us not to rest in our blessings, but in the Blesser Himself." ~A. W. Pink

                    "The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances" ~Elisabeth Elliot

                    "The law is for the self-righteous to humble their pride; the Gospel is for the lost to remove their despair. ~C. H. Spurgeon
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                      #11
                      Originally posted by David Lee

                      Hi Sink, I wanted to address this statement of yours, but I never got around to it earlier (so I will do so now). I will probably have at least a couple of questions for you about this, but let's with this one first: Why do you believe that being a "good person" and "always trying to do the right thing" is important in the process of becoming a "new believer"?

                      Thanks!

                      Yours and His,
                      David
                      I have always honestly tried my hardest to be a good person. I have just never done it for the purpose of God or religion.

                      But I guess it seems like it's important to be a Godly person to be thankful and obedient to God.
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                        #12
                        Originally posted by sink View Post
                        I have always honestly tried my hardest to be a good person. I have just never done it for the purpose of God or religion.

                        But I guess it seems like it's important to be a Godly person to be thankful and obedient to God.
                        That's all very true :), so what role do you believe one's integrity (or being a good person of high moral fiber) plays in being accepted by God and 'becoming' a Christian (for the first time, so to speak)? In what ways can it help us?

                        Also, the Bible talks about being "saved by grace" .. e.g. Ephesians 2:8-10. What do you think Paul means by "grace" here, and how are we "saved" by it?/what do you think it entails?

                        Finally, do you think that the "grace" Paul is speaking of here has anything to do with the Gospel (the "Good News" about Jesus) that he speaks of elsewhere in his Epistles, IOW, "Jesus Christ and Him crucified" .. 1 Cor 2:2? If you do, in what way(s) do you think that they (the "Gospel" and "grace") might be related to one another?

                        Thanks!

                        --David

                        Ephesians 2
                        8 By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God;
                        9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.
                        10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them
                        .
                        Simul Justus et Peccator ~Martin Luther

                        "We are justified by faith alone, but the faith that justifies is never alone" ~John Calvin

                        "Instead of a river, God often gives us a brook, which may be running today and dried up tomorrow. Why? To teach us not to rest in our blessings, but in the Blesser Himself." ~A. W. Pink

                        "The secret is Christ in me, not me in a different set of circumstances" ~Elisabeth Elliot

                        "The law is for the self-righteous to humble their pride; the Gospel is for the lost to remove their despair. ~C. H. Spurgeon
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                          #13
                          Originally posted by David Lee

                          That's all very true :), so what role do you believe one's integrity (or being a good person of high moral fiber) plays in being accepted by God and 'becoming' a Christian (for the first time, so to speak)? In what ways can it help us?

                          Also, the Bible talks about being "saved by grace" .. e.g. Ephesians 2:8-10. What do you think Paul means by "grace" here, and how are we "saved" by it?/what do you think it entails?

                          Finally, do you think that the "grace" Paul is speaking of here has anything to do with the Gospel (the "Good News" about Jesus) that he speaks of elsewhere in his Epistles, IOW, "Jesus Christ and Him crucified" .. 1 Cor 2:2? If you do, in what way(s) do you think that they (the "Gospel" and "grace") might be related to one another?

                          Thanks!

                          --David

                          Ephesians 2
                          8 By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God;
                          9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.
                          10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them
                          .
                          Uhm, to be honest with you, I have literally zero background in religion or anything. I've gone to a Christian church sometimes with my family but I've never really listened. Not because I was trying to go against God or anything I just literally didn't think about it. It wasn't something that was ever talked about in my family. A very bad accident I was involved in and tough times in my family led me to have life changing events that increased my belief in God. This was years ago, and being fully recovered mentally from everything, all of a sudden I'm really feeling a pull to give more of my heart and soul to God.

                          I think the main way becoming a Christian can help me is to reduce my anxiety and worry. I usually feel the need to control everything and it stressed me out. If I can fully believe in God and a much greater plan I think it can ease my mind.

                          So maybe that could be an aspect of being saved by grace. True happiness that can't be taken away or reduced from day to day because it is constant because the happiness is resting in God.
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                            #14
                            Originally posted by David Lee

                            That's all very true :), so what role do you believe one's integrity (or being a good person of high moral fiber) plays in being accepted by God and 'becoming' a Christian (for the first time, so to speak)? In what ways can it help us?

                            Also, the Bible talks about being "saved by grace" .. e.g. Ephesians 2:8-10. What do you think Paul means by "grace" here, and how are we "saved" by it?/what do you think it entails?

                            Finally, do you think that the "grace" Paul is speaking of here has anything to do with the Gospel (the "Good News" about Jesus) that he speaks of elsewhere in his Epistles, IOW, "Jesus Christ and Him crucified" .. 1 Cor 2:2? If you do, in what way(s) do you think that they (the "Gospel" and "grace") might be related to one another?

                            Thanks!

                            --David

                            Ephesians 2
                            8 By grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God;
                            9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast.
                            10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them
                            .
                            Thanks for helping me by the way, it means a lot.
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                              #15
                              Originally posted by sink View Post
                              I think the main way becoming a Christian can help me is to reduce my anxiety and worry.
                              The main way becoming a Christian can help you is having your sins forgiven so you won't need to be afraid of God's judgment. Of course this will reduce your anxiety and stress.
                              Clyde Herrin's Blog
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