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33 year old female here. Happily married, attend an LCMS church and am confirmed, but my husband is non-theistic. I met him at a time when I wasn't in the faith (2004). I came back to the faith in 2005.

Of all the many issues I've studied since then, the topic of human sexuality, and its expressions and morality, have probably caught the most of my attention.

I view sex VERY differently from most women. I've always been this way, and it regularly astonishes people, both secular and religious. It doesn't fit the narrative people have about women and sex. I've now been on countless web sites, and have dealt with media through the years, and at age 33, it's clear to me that most women don't like sex. But I'm not this way.

I've never quite understood most women's hang-ups over sex, unless there's been a prior abuse experience.

Since I'm actually female myself and I have a very high sex drive and am easily stimulated by physically attractive males, I got married in part because I couldn't remain single anymore and needed to deal with the urges (marriage has been great in this regard, and thankfully the bed is undefiled per Scripture--I'm conservative Christian).

I surfed web sites like Playgirl a lot when I was a teenager (although I think it was paid then and I had to get around the age restriction, so I could only view the free galleries). I avoid magazines like ESPN Body now because the men stimulate me, and as a married female, it's not appropriate for me to be looking at other men in that way. When I joined a web site like Dirty Girls in part to deal with past porn addiction, none of the women there understood my problem. Their porn addictions all stemmed from prior abuse. Well, I have no history of abuse. I just like handsome and toned men. I left that site when I realized no one else shared my problem.

I have no close female friendships largely because I refuse to indulge and empathize with most women's view of sex. It's hard for me to imagine why they cannot get excited by attractive men.

I like the physical, visual, and intimacy aspects of sex. All of it.

I posted these thoughts on another Christian forum recently, and it was surprisingly well-received. (Although so far all the likes are from males.) I posted it on another autism forum recently, and it was again well-received, but only by the males.

But I cannot be the only female like this. Who else is afraid to simply admit it? I know I've come across a few online who admit that certain males are super-hot and sexy. But they seem reluctant to admit that outside of more limited contexts.

Wondering when we will get beyond MeToo and Victorian ideas about sex and get to the point where more women admit that it's amazing and that there are hot men out there who excite them in such a way.

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Welcome to ChristForums!

 

 I think if you have all this energy and strong sexual desire then it is great that you can share all of it with your husband. I think that it is wholesome and good. 

 I pray to the Lord that you are a good testimony to Him for the salvation of your husband.

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Hello and welcome kdm1984

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Welcome kdm!

 

God bless,

William

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Sex is a gift from God. It is really sad much of the Christian world has the view it does. Sex belongs in marriage and marriage one man one woman.

Discussion of sex has its place, not that it is dirty some things are better if privet.

My idea of a center fold... Been a few years back now as my husband is 73. Watching him split wood or finish concrete .. That is at least 2 fold. One the sweaty/muscles the other knowing he was working for his family. 

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There's a difference between lusting after another outside the marriage covenant and applying your affections towards your spouse. I have read the entire thread and I am concerned about what is being shared in the open public. I am expressing my concern over the material expressed, keywords such as playgirl etc are indexed in the search engines which in return will turn up this page when someone searches for such terms. Before it happens, now or never, please do not link to any questionable sites which promote or publish pornography.

 

On the topic of the OP, I think Gnosticism and some Catholics have expressed similar views in that the encounter of the serpent was sexual in nature and a sin committed by Adam and Eve in Eden. I don't mind if anyone posts or follows up with these positions and/or offers an apologetic, thereby redirecting the focus away from the OP poster to the theology or misinformation at hand.

 

I will say that sex or making love is only properly expressed within the covenant of marriage. Every other expression outside the marriage bed is a distortion of the beauty found in our spouse or another human being.

 

Please limit the amount of dirty laundry we express on the board, and please consider what you write will be on the board for some time. We refrain from deleting post made that others have responded to in the future which some may be embarrassed by etc.

 

God bless,

William

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Hello kdm1984, welcome to the forum. I hope you'll enjoy your stay here.

 

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On 7/28/2018 at 2:15 PM, hanna said:

Oh, thank you! I am flattered. God bless you too.

Welcome sister.

Please be assured, your not alone.

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