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My foreign girlfriend wants us to settle down in her country.

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My long-term girlfriend is from Southeast Asia and whenever we talk about settling down, she always insists that we should live in her country. I certainly do not like that. I wish to live and raise my own family in the place where I was born in. Now I’m reconsidering the idea of having a foreign bride. How can I convince my gf to stay where I am at?

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Why don't you want to live there? 

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If you can't agree about where to live you shouldn't marry each other.  It seems it would be best for each of you to find someone who lives in the same country to marry.

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On 5/23/2018 at 12:12 PM, zachary1982 said:

My long-term girlfriend is from Southeast Asia and whenever we talk about settling down, she always insists that we should live in her country. I certainly do not like that. I wish to live and raise my own family in the place where I was born in. Now I’m reconsidering the idea of having a foreign bride. How can I convince my gf to stay where I am at?

I agree with what is said above - at the same time I wonder why you want to come onto a forum full of complete strangers to ask advice about such an important and sensitive matter? Talk to your Gf about it - and I mean really talk to her - ask her why she wants to go home and listen to her answers (if you can't do that now, you are going to struggle in marriage)  

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On 5/23/2018 at 4:12 AM, zachary1982 said:

My long-term girlfriend is from Southeast Asia and whenever we talk about settling down, she always insists that we should live in her country. I certainly do not like that. I wish to live and raise my own family in the place where I was born in. Now I’m reconsidering the idea of having a foreign bride. How can I convince my gf to stay where I am at?

For one, I suggest courting rather than dating. You may also find this thread of interest: 

 

 

 

My main concern if I were in your shoes is perhaps your friend girl not understanding what leaving her mother and father and cleaving to her husband (should you become married) means. 

 

Lastly, I'm curious, does she speak more than one language and do you also? 

 

God bless,

William

 

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And in some cultures - the women are expected to stay around the family with their spouse.  Multi-generation families.  

 

And there are couples from various countries who meet and marry as a result of college / university training.  Their desire is to be spending their lives together and that will mean leaving their individual families.  

 

And , just as many people, after getting their education Want to settle down near their family.  Nothing wrong with that, either. 

 

Might depend on what Asian country is being talked about. Some of those countries might not be all that safe for Americans.   Some of those countries highly encourage a spouse to adopt Their countries customs or don't Be there. 

 

Lots to consider Before marrying. 

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