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  1. VioletCake

    Your favorite Author

    I read a lot of fiction, both old and new, and a lot of children's literature. Mark Twain is one of my favorite authors, as well as C. S. Lewis for his Narnia books. But I have been known to read just about any fiction if it's well written. I must confess, however, that I don't really care much for Christian fiction! I find it tends to be too wishy washy and saccharine for my tastes.
  2. I'm wondering what denominations you thought were weird when you were a kid. This is something I'm curious about, and it is not intended to be a debate or to offend anyone. But I think a lot of us who grew up in a specific denomination were probably influenced as children to think that certain other denominations were weird and/or wrong. So, what ones did you think, as a child were weird? I grew up conservative Baptist. I thought that Pentecostals and Church of Christ were particularly weird. I was also under the impression that Presbyterians were more liberal, for some reason (probably because I had cousins who were Presbyterian and liberal), and that Lutherans and Methodists didn't even teach anything from the Bible. A lot of this was misinterpretation of things I had heard from other adults, TV shows, etc. I don't think of them that way now! What about you?
  3. I have no idea what I'm going to do, and I don't like that feeling. This is the first election where I have felt like I can't support anyone. I feel like doing a write-in makes some sense, and yet it won't do anything except essentially give a free vote to someone else. So I really have no idea who I will be voting for in November. I wish someone else was available!
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    Does prison solve anything?

    I don't think it solves a lot. I think that most of the people who come out of prison changed and reformed are those who personally used the experience to grow and change, and not because it was prison itself. That is to say, those who want to change and learn to do differently will, just as in any other circumstance. I suppose it does help in a way to keep some people off the street who might otherwise be a danger, however, there's also no way to prove that an offender will offend again. Statistics say it's likely, but likely doesn't equal an absolute. Prison is an expensive way to deal with crime, but I feel like a more effective way might be even more expensive.
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    The State of Marriage

    I don't see that the Bible says divorce is a sin. What it says is that 'God hates divorce.' God hates a lot of things, and I don't think all of those are sins. For instance, isn't it a little like you or I saying, "I hate it when people get cancer." That's my opinion anyway. However, regarding the numbers of people who are married but aren't happy/successful, I fully agree. It makes me sick when I hear people pretty much bragging about how long they have stayed married, as if the actual 'staying married' part is the most important vow to keep. You could break every single vow aside from that and they would still think it was a successful marriage because it stood the test of time. Not in my opinion!
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    What Are You Proud About

    Yes, it can be difficult to feel like you have anything to be proud of if you have had a hard life. There have been many times over the last fourteen years when I have felt like I had nothing to live for. Thankfully, with time, there is always a chance for hope and change. I am proud that I had the strength to leave my abusive husband. It took a lot of strength and courage, and I got that from good, loving people, not all of whom were Christians. Some would say you shouldn't take pride in anything if you're a Christian, but I think there's a difference between taking pride and being full of yourself. I definitely am proud of how far I've come.
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    The I Missed Church Guilt?

    No. I was raised in a strict conservative Baptist home, and we were at church every time the door was open. It was not until I went to college that I realized not all Christians feel like they have to be in church every single time there is a service, nor does the Bible actually teach that you should be. The verse that talks about 'not forsaking the assembly' (forgive me for not knowing where it is) is often quoted in this context, and preachers have been known to use that verse to actually try to make people feel guilty. But consider the word 'forsake.' It actually means to completely abandon/give up. It does not mean to miss a service now and then. So, no, I don't feel guilty about that.
  8. VioletCake

    I am coming back

    Thank you for the warm welcome, everyone. It is much appreciated!
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    I am coming back

    Hi there, folks. I'm Violet and I am not a new Christian, exactly, but I have been out of the loop for a while. It has been years since I've been to church. I went through a really harsh time with an abusive husband, and for years I basically thought God had abandoned me. After fourteen years of being married to him, with the support of my mom and my best friend, I finally left. I have been very tentative about going back to church, though I want to, so I thought maybe a community like this would be a good place to start. I'm hoping I'll make some friends here and get some support as I go through this next stage of my life as a Christian.