The argument for traditional marriage. 1. What is marriage? If it’s simply a paper that indicates rights given, then sure- let gays have their marriage certificate- I don’t care. If it only dealt with legal rights, I don’t care about whether the law approves or disapproves of rights given to gays. However… it’s not as simple. What is it then? Marriage is a vow Is that all? Two people promise their futures together. Why can’t gays promise their future together? Ok. Solid argument. Let gays make a vow to each other. However- marriage is not only a vow to each other. It’s a vow before God. Marriage before God: ever since the beginning of marriage - marriage has religious connotations. The idea of marriage includes a vow before God- and asks that God be a part of the relationship to help two people become one flesh. Why can’t gays do that? To force God to join man and man goes against God’s desire. God designed man and woman to be together- not man and man. What’s the difference- why can’t man and man then? God considers man and man an abomination to his purposes. He didn’t design man and man to be together. Man and woman have unique characteristics that separate them – including but not limited to procreation and balance. Scientifically as well as practically: men have attributes suited to them and women have attributes suited to them. God’s perspective is that it is not good for man to be alone, so he created woman- woman help balance man. He considers a man that finds a wife, as finding a good thing. In addition, upon this logic, by supporting man- women fulfill their purpose. Why can’t we force God to marry us? What does it matter if God approves or disapproves? If you aren’t religious, then what should it matter that God is a part of your relationship? Why do you have to have a ceremony that includes a vow before God if you don’t believe in God to begin with? Who is it really for? It can’t be for God- it’s for your own gratification. From God’s perspective- he doesn’t care about the actions those who aren’t his own people (unless it harms others): your decisions will still be your own. Do you want the creator to approve of you despite how he feels about same-sex marriage? If you are religious, then you respect that God’s views are the highest views, and that his ways are greater- and forcing God, the all-knowing/eternal creator of the universe- to fit the finite limited perspective of man is unthinkable. So why do some priests and ministers approve of gay marriage then? Throughout history, religious figures have erred for personal gain and approval. That is the case for ministers that approve of gay marriage. While God specifically indicates his disapproval of gay marriage- they respect man’s authority over God’s and are unfit to be ministers/priests. Ministers/priests must respect God’s authority over man’s to have any true authority to speak for God. Now what? Are you going to abolish gay rights? Are you going to burn crosses in our yard and bully kids at school? No. Gays can have the same legal rights as traditional marriage couples. I have no qualms with their legal rights. But please: 1. Leave God out of the vows you make. If you don’t want God to preside over your relationship, that’s fine. But don’t force God to preside in a practice that he disapproves of. Trying to force God to behave according to man’s will is foolish. 2. Distinguish the difference between traditional marriage and gay unification ceremonies- let the courts give a non-religious legally binding vow without involving God in uniting man/man together. 3. Don’t force minsters to perform same-sex marriage ceremonies when they disapprove. Let the Christians keep their marriage vows before God which they consider sacred. Let both have equal rights in the eyes of the law, but not in a way that involves God to preside over gay marriage. What does it matter? If you’re not religious, it doesn’t matter. There isn’t a God- and we can do whatever we want. But in the end – it isn’t that you want God as a part of your life- which is the entire reason for traditional marriage.