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  1. I feel awful for feeling this way because worship is not about us. It's just hard to ignore. Our band way too loud and the constantly moving spotlights make my eyes hurt. I thought I'd be used to it by now, but I am not. I wear earplugs but that doesn't block out the bass or the lights. I am thinking about talking to someone about it, maybe writing an email. Do you think that would be rude? I don't want to come off as rude. Maybe I am just old fashioned. At my old church, worship was my favorite part of service. Now I dread it and that is not good.
  2. Thank you all for your helpful advice. I'm sorry I have not been responding. I do have some good news. I spoke to my mom again this past Saturday and she seems to be warming up to the idea of moving with us. That is progress! :D
  3. You are right. This is just my opinion, but I don't think my parents are "in love" anymore and they have not been for a while. The romance died a long time ago and I don't think any of them care or know how to rekindle it. I can't remember how this came up, but I remember my dad saying that him and my mom are "more like old friends". Knowing my mother, I think she would be offended if I suggested we see a therapist/counselor. :( Correct. Ain't that the truth!
  4. I don't mind the questions, at all. I don't know my my mom stopped seeing her therapist. I guess she figured she didn't need one anymore. My dad has been his therapist for about 2 years. No they were/are not Christian therapists.
  5. Correct. It would be different if she was alone, but she is not. He's always there for her. He loves my mother as Christ commands. When she had knee surgery last year, he pretty much lived at the hospital with her. She would beg him to go home and get rest. I don't believe there is anything more he could do to help her feel more emotionally secure. For some reason, my mom looks to me for that emotional secureness. My mother is 71 and my father is 68. My father already sees a therapist. My mother used to see one.
  6. Finally someone who can relate! It's not easy being the child of an emotionally needy parent. Maybe I should see a therapy. I'll be sure to keep you all updated.
  7. Thank you for replying. I sure hope so.
  8. Hello everyone :) My husband recently got a great job offer that would require us to move 4 hours away from where we live now. Since my mother would never be ok with me moving more than 20 mins from her, my husband asked her and my father if they would be open to moving with us (they're retired and we would get them their own place and take care of them). My father said yes, in his words, "We got nothing to lose!". My mother, on the other hand, is not open to the idea at all because she's "used to living here". I reminded her that we would not be moving for another 6+ months so she still has time to think about it. She then started crying and said, "So you're just gonna leave me?".:rolleyes: I don't know what to do. We must honor our parents, but our spouses come first, right? I feel so conflicted because I love them both. I pray my mom changes her mind and comes with us or at least lets me go without trying to guilt trip me. She made me feel guilty when I moved in with my husband 15 years ago, and still til this day whenever my husband and I go on trips without her. It's getting so old.