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Most important aspect of a relationship

Most important aspect of a relationship  

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  1. 1. Most important aspect of a relationship

    • Communication - sharing life with each other, understanding, humor, conflict management, etc.
      10
    • Common interests and activities.
      0
    • Affection - romance, physical intimacy, considerate.
      1
    • Financial security, generosity and prudence.
      0
    • Fellowship with the same church/denomination.
      2
    • Truthfulness - honesty, integrity, genuineness, fearless, humble and meek.
      7
    • Attraction - appearance, presentation, polite, charisma.
      0
    • Other - please feel free to post a comment.
      1


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What aspects of a relationship do you find most important?

The poll is anonymous, and one choice one vote. So take your time with your choice.

Thank you for your participation.

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This was rather reminiscent of my courtship days some three years ago when I got engaged and then married. Your questions were rather tough, and I felt a couple of them applied, however, I answered what I considered the number 1 priority. For me, everything flowed from fellowship of the church. Of course that led to the attraction which was actually a result of the truthfulness and other attributes or virtues. I considered my potential spouse's moral foundation under God to be the most important "qualification" at the time.

 

God bless,

William

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I'd say there isn't one thing that stands out, because everything is important at different stages of a relationship. I'm engaged, and once you find chemistry with someone enough to decide if the person is worth going to the next dating level, what comes to mind is trust. I have to be able to trust someone, and I definitely trust my fiance. :)

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I agree with Deidre, only thing I can add is the importance of humility. Without a relationship with God and being humble, I don't perceive any marriage will survive the long haul. After an argument with my girlfriend, I discovered that she was humble. To me knowing she was humble too was worth it's weight in gold. Today we are on the verge of 8 years of marriage. Just last summer our marriage was testing by fire, and by the grace of God we came out stronger than before.

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The poll didn't have the choice Cooks dinner every night for me, so I could not register my vote.

 

 

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Generosity...my fiance tonight, came over to watch over me, as I wasn't feeling well today. We were supposed to go to a party together, and I wasn't feeling well. I asked him to go alone, but he didn't want to go without me. Love is a verb. :)

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I choose "other". It is hard to explain, but for me it is an unspoken feeling of "connection". All the other options listed will wax and wane in your relationship, especially if you are married for a long time and go through a lot of ups and downs. But what always remains for me is a feeling of connection, a feeling that I was meant to be with this person, I was meant to share these struggles with him, him and I are meant to be on this journey together, no matter the hardships and troubles we face.

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I think communication is the most important aspect in relationships. To be able to tell the other person what the problem is so that you can both find a solution, that's what keeps a relationship strong. Having silent treatments as well as fights won't resolve anything, only peaceful and truthful conversations do that. I was lucky enough to have someone like that, but alas, I let her go because I was too self centered and didn't realize what was in front of me the whole time. I hope you guys won't make the same mistake as I did.

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I have voted for Communication and Truthfulness based on my experience. The most enjoyable companion for me is my husband. As he always say when we are in the car and stuck in traffic, it is all right to wait since we are together. And we seldom use the phone or the car's radio when we are together since we enjoy more when we communicate. As with truthfulness, honestly is really the best policy. When you are hiding nothing then there is not a bit of fear that something might be revealed. In other words, when you are honest with your spouse, you feel totally comfortable with each other. Most of the times at home, we are in front of the tv that is not turned on, we just chat on so many topics. That's also our habit when we are in the car.

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I would have to go with communication as well. I know that all of the others that were mentioned are up there too, and of course we all know that they are all the right answer in their won way and they are all important, and maybe it is just my personal experience but when relationships do not have effective communication it can lead to problems quickly. It is important that there is a shared understanding of almost everything in a serious and personal relationship, and that can be difficult at times.

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I voted for communication as well. In my country, most people are Christians so I don't have an issue with that one, my husband is a Christian as well. And even if I had met someone who isn't from the same religion as mine, I wouldn't change mine just so I can marry him. I won't ask him the same as well. But I doubt that we can connect or even agree in all things because of our differing religions. I guess if I truly love him, I'd make it work, but I'll never change my religion for him.

 

So now that that is out of the way, why did I chose communication? Well, because it's what matters most for us. We might have arguments most of the time, but we can fix it if we talk and communicate. I'd ask him to be honest but only about things that matter. I won't mind him drinking with his friends and forgetting to tell me about it. But I would mind if he drank and wasn't able to do his duties the next day.

 

Most of the time, our arguments are about petty things... He didn't put his clothes in the laundry basket or he didn't buy what we needed. But with communication, things are easily resolved. We always love talking with each other and knowing what happened to each other's day. And I think that's important as well, to be genuinely interested in what your partner has to say.

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Many people get married because they think they are in love and they have this unrealistic expectations about how perfect their spouses are going to be. No one is perfect. That's one fact married couples must accept. If they can then they'll be able to overlook each others faults and maybe they'll be relatively happy.

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In everything God comes first. Even in love. Second most important thing in a relationship is love. Not the sort of attraction people call love. Real love. Without it a relationship is doomed to fail eventually.

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I think the most important part of a relationship is communication because otherwise it's only a sexual relationship. For two people to be together, in my opinion, they need common ground. They need to enjoy each other's company because they understand each other. Being around someone who doesn't understand what you feel or even your sense of humor is really sucky and can only end up with a nasty breakup.

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I was torn between choosing truthfulness and communication. These two subjects are essentially the same thing, so I just went with communication. Communication is so incredibly important in a relationship. If you cannot communicate your dislikes, likes, and day to day activities to your partner, there is a problem. Being able to communicate with the one you love should come with ease. Your partner should be the person you go to when there's any sort of problem. Loving one another is an important aspect to a relationship, but making sure that you can communicate that love is essential.

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I was torn between choosing truthfulness and communication. These two subjects are essentially the same thing, so I just went with communication. Communication is so incredibly important in a relationship. If you cannot communicate your dislikes, likes, and day to day activities to your partner, there is a problem. Being able to communicate with the one you love should come with ease. Your partner should be the person you go to when there's any sort of problem. Loving one another is an important aspect to a relationship, but making sure that you can communicate that love is essential.

 

G'day Lexi,

 

Lemme ask you something Lexi. Say you and your spouse were married, and he got into an accident and were no longer able to communicate. Would you consider this grounds for divorce? What I am asking is if your spouse was bed ridden, and unable to communicate his dislikes, likes and day to day activities, would you leave them, breaking your vows for better or worse, through sickness and in health? Would this "problem" be no fault of yours and grounds for divorce?

 

God bless,

William

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I voted communication too. In my marriage I know the times where we have felt the most strength and togetherness have been when our communication has been strong and open - and consequently, when our marriage has felt at its' weakest has been in times where the communication lines we had were poor.

 

I think that also, the other things feed into communication. If you're communicating well, it's likely that you're engaging in being truthful, open, and hopefully encouraging your spouse. If you make them feel appreciated, safe and loved with your words, then that really promotes a culture of affection within the marriage too.

 

I honestly think a lot of bigger issues can be solved quickly when communication is good.

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I voted for truthfulness as my top choice, but I don't know that I could exclude anything from the list because it isn't important. When I look at all the choices I think, "My, who wouldn't want a relationship with someone like that?" God has all that in His character, but everyone I've met hasn't measured up to that kind of perfection, including me.

 

I've spent a good deal of my childhood living with a person who was a liar. I'm not meaning that in a judgemental way because I saw the deep pain behind his need to feel important. But the thing we both lost was a chance to be good friends. I often wonder what we could have had. There was a natural charisma to his personality and he could have had many friends. But because of this trait, one-by-one people left his life once they discovered they couldn't trust him. When I saw that happening, it made me more determined to be a person who could be as honest as I could. Actually, I see honesty as deeper than truth. Even the devil can tell the truth but he can't be honest. There is a deception in his truth which is very dangerous.

 

And that's how I honestly feel.

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My immediate elder brother recently wrote a drama script he titled "DIALOGUE". The script centers on the importance of communication in a relationship. When a couple stop speaking or speak less often then there is a problem somewhere. I will try and reveal a little revelation here as I have received it. The importance of verbal communication cannot be over emphasized in a relationship. Can we just try see it this way in relation to Christ as the spoken word....John 1:1. In the beginning was the Word, which according to our belief and interpretation of that scripture that the "Word" mentioned imply "Christ". As Christ is to us as believers, a key factor in maintaining a cordial relationship with God so is communication in form of spoken word a key factor in maintaining a cordial relationship between couples. I could go on and on but i guess I'll just stop right here.

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I think communication is the most important part of a relationship. Most of my family doesn't share common interest past maybe a love of animals, food, and gardening. Everyone in my family are extremely different in temperaments and interest. Honest is also important, though most of the time, I feel that it's more important to keep my mouth shut than to speak my mind. Affection and generosity should come naturally to the people you truly care for. I think it's important to be considerate to the people you have a relationship regardless if it's in how you communicate, how you interact with them, and alway make sure to make time for them even when you're really busy.

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Well you can make the case for a lot of different aspects here, and certainly communication and trust and honest are all big ones. I usually like to go off script when it comes to questions like this, though, so I will choose something like cohesion. If nothing else it gets me thinking a little bit. It makes sense, though, and the better able that you are to live in concert with your partner, and operate as one, the better off you are as a marriage.

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I also agree with communication being the most important aspect of a relationship. In order to appreciate the other "aspects" listed, what good are they if you don't know how to communicate your needs and expectations? Communication is the key to making a relationship work. Without effective communication, there's the risk of misunderstandings, errors, frustration, and potential break-ups or divorce. Although men and women tend to communicate differently, once a person understands those differences, communication becomes easier.

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For me it is' mutual' love and affection that helps to run any relationship. I emphasize on the word mutual becomes according to me a single person can never bear the load of any relationship. It has to be shared by all the people involved if they want it to be long lasting.

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Communication & Trust for me. Without them I don't think any relationship no matter how hard you try will work. It's important to communicate with your other half about your feelings especially if there is something that maybe they are doing that you do not like. Keeping those feelings inside and not mentioning it to them will only cause trouble in the future. It is also important to be able to trust your other half. If you're are wondering about what your other half is doing all the time when they are not with you, it won't be healthy for your relationship or for your health.

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I have voted truthfulness but communication is also important as most of the problems in today's relationship arise because of not properly sharing their thoughts and hide something which leads to suspiction and ambiguity. Appearance is not important as we should be beautiful from the inside.

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