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    Seeking For Advice

    When you are not in good terms with your spouse, whom do you usually recommend to advice you? Some people suggest seeking advice from their parents, others from local church pastors and others prefer taking their issues to court.

    #2
    If something in my life has reached the level of being a big problem, one that I feel I should no longer try to handle alone, I call my senior pastor before anyone else. Of course, there's usually nothing wrong with seeking advice from more than one trusted source either.

    In Christ,
    David



    "Without consultation, plans are frustrated, but
    with many counselors they succeed"

    Proverbs 15:22
    Matthew 5
    16 Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.

    Matthew 7
    12 However you want people to treat you, so treat them, for this is the Law and the Prophets.

    1 Corinthians 13
    1 If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal.
    4 Love is patient, love is kind...

    James 1
    19 Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger;
    20 for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.

    1 Peter 3
    15 Sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence.

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      #3
      The first thing anyone should do is get on your knees and pray to God to show you what you are doing wrong. So many couples fall into the trap that whatever is happening is the other person's fault, but marriage is a two way street, and both people should be giving 100%.

      Once you have come to the Lord He will direct you to wise counsel, usually a pastor or elder in your church, but in other cases you may need to seek more professional help.

      The point, though, is always start examining yourself before looking for the speck in the other person's eye.

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        #4
        When I am having issues at home, I usually seek advice with my friends. My friends know me better than anyone. One of my friends is particularly good at giving relationship advice, even though he has never been in long term relationships. He looks at things from a very broad perspective and can usually give me solid advice when it comes to what I should do. My friends tend to be honest with me and don't tell me what I want to hear. I like that trait.

        I don't think I would ever seek advice from a church, unless my issues were related to religion. I can't see a reason to seek help at church when it comes to dealing with my relationship issues. I feel that there are bigger things to worry about than my relationship and I wouldn't want to waste a pastor's time.

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          #5
          There are always some or other problem in every relationship. One should solve by self understanding. If self understanding is not working then go for consultancy. Sometimes end up everything is not a solution. My friend is going through a bad relationship. She had a voyance direct consultant for suggestion to overcome problems in relationship. Never lose hope, sometimes getting help from someone can solve problems.

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            #6
            I think that anyone who has your and your spouse's best interest at heart is a good person to ask. The most important One to ask, though, is God.

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              #7
              It depends on your problem, who you go to. I agree with many here first go to God and prayer.

              Go to someone who has gone through what your going through or if you cant find that person go to someone you trust and or love

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                #8
                Originally posted by Francis
                When you are not in good terms with your spouse, whom do you usually recommend to advice you? Some people suggest seeking advice from their parents, others from local church pastors and others prefer taking their issues to court.
                I find I go to the scriptures. However my gut doesn’t want me to.

                Every time I get “know” I should read the scriptures but don’t “feel” like it, that is is how I know what to do.

                So when I read the scripture, it pierced between bone and marrow and I get back on the right path with my spouse.

                I don’t trust others because I don’t trust myself to give an honest summary of the story. Since I’m a sinner I’ll probably “tell it” in a way that favors my side.

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